Should he/it take our son to his/its parents if I am not welcome there?

My friend and I have a son old 2 months, and I have a 4 year old, from a prior marriage, first from all, my friend parted with me, as I was pregnant and didn 8 weeks, really speak t with myself until I was pregnant 7 months. I bemühte me to it, included him/it in my pregnancy, but you können\'t forces matters, therefore I leave going and concentrated me on the future of pulling up my 2 boys.
Now, matters changed meanwhile. After many talks and hashing from Gefwe give another chance ühlen to our relationship. A quantity of our problems was in his/its life, one of that bev, because of unsolicated advices/opinions of peopleölkern you the being his/its father. I place wei auf\'tß the details of matters, that he/it said, but in conversations, my friend had occassions on separate with me and my parents, he/it escaped to the fact that his/its daddy and directed him/it into the wrong direction, but he/it recognizes that he/it doesn\'t want any matters, the way.
Long history short, matters went well with our relationship since our son was born. , My friend lives ungefähr 200 miles away, therefore we look him/it only at the weekends, my Freund\'s-Eltern parted, and both is married again. His/its mommy and her/its/their husband were St from my pregnancyützend, you smooth as my friend and I didn\'t communicate. You/they got almost every weekend, in order to visit our son, after he/it had been born. Obviously, I have because of the negative Vorschläge that he/it did during my pregnancy negative feelings of his/its father. ErEr and his/its wife didn\'t have anything to do with my pregnancy and never came in order to see her/its/their grandchild in the hospital or anytime in the weeks, after he/it had been born. You/they started my friend, whom they wanted to see him/it, hasseling and wanted him/it, him/it to her/its/their house für the day, to bring out. But there I am not welcome to be. My friend gewann\'t comes directly out and says, thereß, but originally he/it had said that we all went on there, and then said with the last minute that it was no good idea in me to be gone. , Also quiet I ausschließlich,
I increase as worked off my feelings to him/it over it. I told him/it, thereß I feels, that my feelings are dispensable to him/it, if his/its father occurs. I place f auf\'tühlt, that it is right for him/it to take out our son from there, if I am not welcome to be a part of it. Anus universe, he/it is OUR son and she/it shouldn\'t the Sch callsüsse. Is not, thereß I from there the spending duration with them wants to be, but I feel that it should be my election, whether or I don\'t go. I shouldn\'t becomes extremelyählt, that I am not welcome.
I feel that, if he/it wants matters to work together with us, as steps he/it upward and must rise to his/its daddy and his/its wife. If we will be a family, we are full time a family, you don\'t share any time. I told him/it, I think his/its Müll that even the 4 from us (my friend), my 4 years old, and our 2 months old, you unite aus\'s to his/its mommy, but only my friend and our 2 months old is welcome with his/its daddy.
I believed after I had expressed the first time my feelings that matters would change. But my friend did it again. I weiß, improves to be you as the type of person in order to publish an ultimatum but I place auf\'t feels, that that is right, what goes on. It hurts me, that it happens, everytime. I want again thereover talks, but I want to become an ugly fight.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? I fühle, that I should tell him/it that if he/it, that goes, isn\'t to fight for me and our family, as I must go away from our relationship. We können friends is, but that is everything. I kann\'t continues a relationship, where my Gefühle important is not.

Additional details

Thanks so very much for all answers! I schreally etch it.
I guess, that I want to feel only like my feelings, am acknowledged and that our family first comes.
I understand, that his/its family because of her/its/their divorce has her/its/their own questions, BUT those questions still is not become lean back my questions I me and is excluded by child by the life. I place auf\'t-Sorge whether not or mögen she/it me. You/they place only auf\'t, the Sch callsüsse.
I want to feel myself being my election like it whether or I don\'t go.

2

from Tracey Seth

Best answer chosen by voters

You/they are right the way, that you do, in feeling.

The baby is part of one package, that includes your son and you. If FIL can, \'t gets done with it, then this is his/its question and not yours. Während I believes, that grandparents are essential for a good, family relationship with children stretched out, it is not, exclusive similar parenthood is.

It is not it him/it practically for your child\'s father in order to expect you to allow to take your son a whole day long, in order to see a man, that don\'t like you, if you nurse exclusively. If the baby older is, and you nurse no more, then, it would work, but not now.

I would endure my ground. You/they told him/it, as you itself fühlen, and personally, I wouldn\'t disturbs again. There is not any way, that I old son to his/its father f my two monthür the grandfather would turn, \'s-Vergnügen at these circumstances.

Source(s,:

Mommy of seven 100 percent 1 election save to! ! RSS

Other Answers (7)

through wintersn... if it was I, my baby probably would bring i into a while once, but not to often............

through adjoins you, I am with u on this. I believe, thereß the baby should not go, if u r that doesn\'t go.
U seems really quiet and collected. I hätte every day a big fight with my hubby, if this had happened to me.

through eml Long history, short answer. You/they are not incorrectly dafür, to feel this way. Her/its/their friend muß his/its father say that you come as one package of deal. You/they müssen sits down your friend and says him/it, that you had thought, you expressed your feelings on the topic, but because he/it did it again, there was obviously any misunderstanding... then says you to him/it again everything.

from Dalton & Kaiah\'s Mommy Your friend should tell his/its daddy "Beiden, all of us are welcome or we don\'t come that so being cannot have father for him/it both ways to speak. If has the Grandkid, but rejects to acknowledge you. If you weren\'t the baby in the picture wäre also not. Es\'s so simply. Ask him/it, aufwärts, to step, and him/it you b/c to unterstützen\'s his/its daddy, who should not feel you like a scoundrel.

you know completely about Krys i that there, where original that comes from i 3 children 2 has, from a prior friend is, and he/it wanted to see only his/its 2 children, if didn\'t come i, if it came be my other daughter and my husband, so that said to him/it i, a family matter, and his/its 2 children are also my children, and they have a lil-Schwester and i wast that goes him/it them, to let seen untill, he/it grew up and got across, and my children simply now be 4 and 3 and he/it seein she/it for the first time because we separated and guess something my husband, and my 2yr aged daughter is welcome to with it i his/its bs believes, that his/its father like this hes, that only takes the trouble to continue not to control his/its son and his/its thats right, is but it nothing, which can make u against it, gives placed u untill "your foot, you, that help, defeat i-Hoffnung

through charisma, you are the mother.... you have every right to be with your child there.. your bf must say her/it/them that, if she/it wants to see grandchildren,.. then must negotiate her/it/them with you. She/it can wählen which is important. Her/its/their husband is a total WIMP if he/it goes!

from Dolly B, I was in a similar situation.. my Ehemännerfamilie prohibited me, and my daughter of her/its/their family accumulations however my husband was welcome. (it was before together we our son. my husband essentially asked them to take a flying jump. His/its family always first comes and was married as him/it, his/its wife became his/its family. He/it told his/its brother, thereß we (I) and he/it and dd one package of deal is. We Hafen\'t spoken with them in 4 years. My dh still stands with his/its decision, thereß his/its wife and his/its children first over his/its parents comes. I believe, in that I it your BF präsentiert, that his/its son now is his/its family, and first priority over his/its father, maybe he/it sees it differently.
You/they are right to endure your ground. You/they and your children is one package of deal.., if she/it können, \'t assumes you with your son, they cannot assume you. Ohßerdem, if you keep this on him/it, what happens, if your son older and she/it bad moving the lips is, are you behind your back??? thinks you about the long concept.
Her/its/their son needs a loving and nutritious surroundings and you and you, BF can give this without grandparents, who are involved.

Source(s,:

been taken care of there that